Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Advocacy, Our Voices
My kids are grown, and while my spouse and I have agreed to be done parenting, we still want to help kids, so I became a CASA. CASA stands for Court Appointed Special Advocate. In some places, they call this person GAL, Guardian Ad Litem. I, along with my husband,
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children, Therapeutic Parenting, Trauma
In the world of therapeutic parenting and developmental trauma, we hear a lot about shame. Professionals write lots of great articles about it. This is my perspective as a mom.
When I first read about shame in our kids, I was pretty positive that my often narcissistic son could not have that issue.
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children, Therapeutic Parenting, Trauma
One day as I scrolled through social media, I saw that several different friends had shared a video of a kid doing something sweet, one of those heartwarming things that everyone likes to share. At first I smiled and thought it was nice. Then I noticed something–comment after comment stating that this kid had obviously been “raised right.” As I read dozens of similar comments,
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children
Have you seen those funny memes that use photos to demonstrate the difference between how we might expect an activity or career to look and the reality? I have laughed at many. When we adopt, however, I think the contrast is sometimes not so funny. I also think that we make it worse.
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children, Trauma
Last week on the blog, I told you a little about what life was like with my son with complex early trauma. I talked about the lying, the stealing, the fear, the things we did to protect ourselves and him. And I told you that once he turned 18,
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Attachment, Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children, Therapeutic Parenting, Trauma
I have moved into a new phase in life, especially my parenting life. My last child has moved out of the house. Another child visited for the summer, so we didn’t experience a true empty nest immediately. Yet it is still a new phase–the child who moved out last was our child with an alphabet soup of diagnoses.
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I am sitting on airplane headed back home to my real life. I have been at a retreat/conference with a hundred moms of kids from hard places. We had classes and support groups…and chocolate and hot tub time. We did a fair bit of lying in the sun and a whole lot of talking.
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Attachment, Parenting Traumatized Children, Therapeutic Parenting, Therapies
Last month, I shared three things that parents want therapists to know:
I promised a follow-up, so here it is,
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Lorraine Fuller
Posted in Our Voices, Parenting Traumatized Children
–by Lorraine Fuller
Mother’s Day is so many things to so many people. I was blessed to have one or two Hallmark-worthy experiences. Breakfast in bed of soggy cereal and burnt toast (pro tip: a dog is very useful in these situations!), handmade gifts and cards.
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–by Lorraine Fuller
As a mom who is trying to help her children in every possible way, I research so that I can learn all I can about the issues my kids face. I join groups, I read books, I take classes, I attend trainings, I go to conferences,
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